Requiescat in pace

“I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo. “So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

It has been a while! I have missed writing. Like being away from a group of friends that I am used to talking with often.

Life has been full of late.

My father, Edmond Neal, died on Tuesday of this week. Above is his photo from 30 years ago. He was 88.

Saying goodbye to my father, face to face, was one of the most painful and profound moments of my entire life. I am not ready to write on any of it now, but do earnestly solicit your kind prayers for his soul, for my mom and step mom, for our whole family and for all those who grieve his passing. Thank you.

My step mother insisted that I share in my teaching what I learned from my final time with dad, and so I will. Some day. I will try to get writing again on other things very shortly, as I catch my breath.

“May the angels lead you into paradise;
may the martyrs receive you at your arrival
and lead you to the holy city Jerusalem.
May choirs of angels receive you
and with Lazarus, once a poor man,
may you have eternal rest.”

This entry was posted in Family.

39 comments on “Requiescat in pace

  1. tmm says:

    Lord have mercy! Condolences to you and your family, DTJN. Sharing the scripture that was written in my friend, Fr. Steve’s, guest book. His funeral was yesterday at Our Lady of Wisdom.
    📖2 Corinthians 5:4-5 “For while we are in this tent we groan and are weighed down, because we do not wish to be unclothed but to be further clothed, so that what is mortal may be swallowed up by life. Now the one who has prepared us for this very thing is God, who has given us the Spirit as a first installment”

    You have the first installment, and how good it is, but now your father is blest to be able enjoy payday in this Easter season, alleluia, Alleluia! Will be offering a Mass for your father’s soul at St. Teresa of Avila, and will email you the Mass card in a few weeks. Might the breathe of the Holy Spirit blow our Blessed Mother Mary’s mantle over you to as a comforting cover, with St. Joseph interceding at her side. With Jesus holding you all in the palms of His hands lifted up to our gracious Father, may healing graces be abundant.

    🚪Doors will open or close as God so wills, most certainly to вℓεss
    Repent and be at peace, with a contrite heart fail not to confess
    Then have no fear, cause letting Jesus in, no longer will life B a mess
    / \ է♏♏╱や㈦ ℒ

  2. lisa parker says:

    So sorry to of your dad’s passing. Bet he was proud of your accomplishments

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  3. marble says:

    Praying for your shalom and your comfort in Christ our Savior – our only hope. . . .

  4. Not worthy of the title of NOS. . . says:

    PEACE + + + + + + + BE + + + + + + + WITH + + + + + + + YOU.

  5. Claude Kenneson says:

    May the Lord grant you consolation in this time of sorrow and your faith maintain you And may your dad be at rest in the Father’s “house” where there are “many mansions.” Peace and prayers.

  6. Katy says:

    Tom, I’m so sorry to hear of your dad’s passing. What a gift you had to be with him. Prayers for you and Patti and your children and family. Thanks for passing along the news to the “blog crew”.

  7. Janet says:

    Oh dear Tom. My heart goes out to you. You saw death. There are no accurate words for it. Our prayers ascending for you. I understand why you can’t write now. Much love. Janet

  8. vicki352 says:

    Peace to you Tom.

    Sent from my iPhone

  9. My prayers are with you

  10. “Brother” Dale (Fr Dustin’s friend) says:

    Our sincere condolences Tom. Time will allow you to process this deep loss. But my experience is that our eyes never stop looking for that familiar face. Our ear never stops listening for that familiar voice. A particular way of manifesting our longing for heaven.

  11. AMDG says:

    May your father see the unveiled Face ofGod and in the sadness of the good-bye may you encounter the awesome beauty of Love’s glory.
    Our prayers are with you and your family. We missed you.

  12. Tara Rodden Robinson says:

    Many hearts are aching along with yours in this time of grief. Eternal rest grant to him, Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul, and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest In peace.

    With love,

  13. Mark Hommerding says:

    I will be praying for you my friend, for your father, and for your family

  14. Michael says:

    My dear friend and brother in the Lord,
    My sincerest and deepest condolences to you and all of your family. No words to express the heart ache and pain that I’m sure you are feeling. I will continue to pray for you and all of the Neal family. May our loving God pour out His blessings upon you and come speedily to your assistance. You are greatly loved.


  15. Evie says:

    I’m so sorry. May God comfort all of you as you miss his presence.

    May all the angels and saints rejoice st his reception. ❤️

  16. girasol says:

    May he rest in peace. Love to you and your family.

  17. Denise says:

    My prayers are with you and your family.

  18. Nos the JEW says:

    Dearest Thomas,
    Your Dad beat us to it. While we have to put up with the ways of mankind, pops gets to begin t h e journey of forever. . . walking the streets of purgatory on his way to a dinner of milk and honey. . .tell him to say hello to Bill and Jane my mom and dad. . . P.B.W.Y.A.A.

  19. DismasDancing says:

    Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord, and perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul, and all of the souls of the faithful departed, rest in peace. Amen!

    Sincerest of condolences, my dear friend. Having been very close to my own Dad, I know your pain. Our Great God does as well and will, in your darkest hours, allow you the greatest of comfort and deepest of love in and from Him–This Tremendous Lover. May the peace that does indeed surpass all understanding be with you.


  20. Heather Jordan says:

    So very sorry, Tom. You and your family and your father will be in our prayers. Because of him, you learned to breathe with two lungs, and you’ve passed that appreciation on to so many of us. Much love to all of you.

  21. Pam Condon says:

    Dr. Neal,
    So sorry to hear about your Dad’s passing. It is always hard to say goodbye! Watch for signs of him especially in the short term. When my dad passed away around a dozen cardinals came to visit my mom every day for about 10 days. When my father in law passed away all the kids helped my mother in law to move to a small ranch house and helped her fix it up. They were taking before and after pictures in her bathroom and there appears to a man resembling my father in law as a reflection in the mirror in one of the pictures. Lastly, your father must have been an amazing man for his son surely is! Sending prayers to you and all your family!

    • So grateful, Pam, for your words and your counsel. Innumerable occasions since his death that match your words. We will have a memorial Mass tomorrow for him at the Seminary — those are such graced moments that make you grateful for faith and hope. Blessings

  22. Christa says:

    Αἰωνία ἡ μνήμη, Eonia i Mnimi: May his memory be eternal, worthy of blessedness and everlasting memory.

    Lifting him up in prayer, Tom, and you as well.


  23. GuadaGirl says:

    Dr. Neal I have not logged in for a while, I am just finding about this sad news, but please count on my prayers for you and your family during this time of mourning and blessing prayers for your dad’s safe journey home to our Lords arms. Eternal Rest, grant unto him O Lord and let perpetual light shine upon him. God’s resurrection be your strength.

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