A Culture of Waste

Wastefulness is the original Christian attitude. The entire Passion occurs under the sign of this complete self-wasting of God’s love for the world. — Hans Urs von Balthasar

This last weekend, my son and I sat outside till late at night smoking cigars, drinking and talking about everything. Family history, work, jokes, politics, weather, faith, bugs. It was for us what the Greeks call a kairos moment, where eternity and time transverse, hearts unfold and the burdens of life for a time depart.

The same weekend, I led a ministry volunteer retreat. During the retreat, which was on joy, I invited the attendees to join me in dancing as I played the music video for Pharrell Williams’ Happy. More than half of them did and, for me, it was yet another kairos moment I will never forget. I just knew the Son of David was dancing with and in us.

I have often spoken in this blog of the importance of such kairos time-wasting as an essential attribute of love and relationships, especially in marriage and family life. Singing and dancing, hiking and boating, gaming and gardening, feasting and praying, laughing and crying, or beginning sentences with words like…

What do you think about…

How did you feel when…

Do you remember back when we…

I love it when you…

Wasn’t that funny when…

What’s on your mind…

How was your day…

What’s your favorite…

Why do you believe…

Once upon a time…

Can we pray together about…

I love you…

…then be sure to follow these words with an immoderate wasting of time…

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6 comments on “A Culture of Waste

  1. JJ Yahoo says:

    There is a broken link to the post. Blessings, Jane

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  2. clowfamily7 says:

    Thank you for this! Oh how I need to waste more time!!!

  3. fayecoop says:

    I’m currently leading a group of women in a retirement community through Love: A Guide for Prayer by Bergan & Schwan (6 week Ignatian prayer guide). I’m simply accompanying people, and yet, in my prayer time I recognized this as gift, and no small gift! My gift, call it wasting time or accompanying others, is enough. Not only is it enough, it is of the greatest value. I think it’s a superpower 🦹‍♀️.
    Smiling a lot this morning. Thanks for encouraging others to waste time.

  4. Claude Kenneson says:

    I think that the saying “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy” can apply here. And, as Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4 tells us: “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven:…a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance…”

  5. amyansaturday says:

    Love this…Some of my most amazing Kairos moments I have had in the past month have been spending my days with seniors who have been diagnosed with Alzheimers. Such an insidious disease, but through when the veil splits, the outpouring of grace in those minutes and sometimes just seconds are truly breathtaking Kairos moments!

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